Hello my friends! I’m excited today to revisit my musings column. My intention is to write more this year- to touch on the things I’ve learned from struggles I’ve overcome or experiences I’ve had, things that I’m reminding myself of or just random thoughts that have been kicking around in the ol’ brain for awhile! Today’s Musings post is about the secrets we keep and how sharing them can set you free.
We all have a history- we’ve all done things that we are ashamed of. We have things about ourselves that we’re embarrassed by, that we don’t share with ANYONE. And that feeling, that shame, it’s toxic. It’s the voice in your head that tells you you’re not good enough, pretty enough, smart enough. It’s the voice that keeps you from feeling like the best self that you already ARE.
Whatever you’ve done, the very worst of it, is forgivable. Whatever those things are about yourself that you don’t share, that you feel ashamed of- those things don’t define you, they have nothing to do with your value or how lovable you are. You’re perfectly perfect and wonderful and exactly as you’re meant to be- just as you are.
In my experience, the only way to start believing that, truly believing it, is to share the things you’re terrified to share with the person who you trust most. And then to keep sharing if possible. Those secrets feed that negative voice in your head, they perpetuate the myth that there’s something to be ashamed of. Sharing them forces you to confront that. It’s not easy work. It’s terrifying and invites a vulnerability to your sense of self like no other. But releasing those secrets is a tremendous gift to your spirit. And the burden of that shame will be lifted, one shared secret at a time. Challenge your secrets. Be free. Love yourself. xx- Sarah